16 To the woman he said,

“I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing;
in pain you shall bring forth children.
Your desire shall be for your husband,
and he shall rule over you.”

The Holy Bible: English Standard Version. (2001). (Ge 3:16). Wheaton: Standard Bible Society.

In Genesis 3, God asks Man what he did. Man says it was not him, it was the woman. The woman says it was not her, but the serpent. God begins with the serpent. There is no gospel for angels. Satan has fallen and there will be no redemption for him.

To the woman, God increases the pain of birth. But he also distorts her relationship with her husband and his with her.

“Your desire shall be for your husband,” has been distorted so often, by so many. It does not mean that a woman will fall all over herself to submit to her husband. That is not it at all. And we know this by Genesis 4:7.

7 If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door. Its desire is for you, but you must rule over it.”

The Holy Bible: English Standard Version. (2001). (Ge 4:7). Wheaton: Standard Bible Society.

Sin’s desire is for Cain. He must rule over that desire.

In other words, sin wishes to dominate Cain. The same Hebrew is used with Even. It is not that she will desire her husband so much that he will trample upon her, but that she wants to rule over him and his response will be to dominate her. This upends the balance of Genesis 2.

God created Eve to be a helpmate for Adam. They were to work together to raise their family and tend the garden. Now, instead of helping each other, each will desire that they other help them in their own goals. It is a separation and domination that we were not intended to have.

The purpose of marriage is to become one from two people. It is to conform each other into one. The fall of man distorts the sound of God and distorts our relationships with each other.